If you have adopted I am sure you can relate to much of this. In some crazy way it feels good to know someone else understands.
If you are considering adopting, this is so true of so many families.
Please do not let it scare you away- but please read it and use it to know how to pray and allow God to prepare your heart for what is to come.
I had read a lot and talked to so many about adoption but was still surprised at my own feelings through this process. We are more often than not through the dark valley, but it often returns at times when life gets hard, when we do new things and sometimes when we are not expecting it.
If you are a friend of a family that has adopted it is so helpful to understand what they may be experiencing. Sometimes the mom needs to talk cause it is just plain hard. We mom's get it, we understand the child's trauma and why they do what they do, but it is still hard to process, can be very painful and gets exhausting at times. Please do not give up on praying for that family once the child is home, because that is when the real hard stuff begins.
When God calls you to it He WILL bring you through it and the blessings are real and He grows us in ways that are wonderful. He will show His glory through the dark valley and on the other side you, your new child and the whole family will be blessed for it.